Are You Thinking Yourself Tired?
I spent over 20 years being tired.
Not just “oh I could do with an early night” tired. I mean properly exhausted. The kind where you wake up tired, spend all day thinking about being tired, then get into bed and… can’t sleep because you’re stressing about how tired you’re going to be tomorrow.
At the time I was running a business with my then husband, raising three children, trying to keep the house together, the finances together and honestly… myself together.
Then in 2008 I trained as a hypnotherapist and realised something huge.
I was actually thinking myself tired.
Now before you throw your phone across the room and say “well thanks Jacquie, I can’t exactly THINK myself asleep can I?” hear me out.
Your mind is a bit like your overly enthusiastic best friend. It listens to everything you say and then rushes off trying to make it happen.
So there you are at 3am…
“Oh no, I’m awake again.”
“I’m going to be shattered tomorrow.”
“I’ve only got 4 hours left before the alarm goes off.”
“My whole day is ruined.”
Meanwhile your brain is there like:
“Oooo she wants to be exhausted tomorrow. Right then, let’s get started immediately.”
The more you panic about sleep, the more awake you become.
Now don’t get me wrong, I still don’t sleep perfectly every night. But bedtime no longer feels like a battle.
My bed is my sanctuary now.
I actually enjoy getting into bed. The soft pillow, the blankets, the quiet, the feeling of finally switching off from everyone and everything for a while. Sometimes I still wake up in the night, but instead of lying there stressing, I use it as time to relax, daydream, imagine holidays or mentally wander off somewhere peaceful.
And honestly? I have more energy now than I did years ago when I was technically “sleeping better.”
So I thought I’d share a few of the things that genuinely helped me stop fighting sleep all the time.
Not the usual boring “sleep hygiene” lecture you can read on every other website. Yes, caffeine late at night probably isn’t helping and yes scrolling Facebook until 1am while convincing yourself you’re “relaxing” might not be ideal either but these are the little things that actually helped calm my mind.
1. Stop checking the clock
Honestly, nothing good has EVER come from checking the time at 3am.
You look at the clock.
You calculate how many hours you’ve got left.
You panic.
You get more awake.
You check it again 12 minutes later like somehow the universe has gifted you an extra hour.
If you use an alarm clock, turn it round.
If you use your phone, put it face down and stop “just checking something quickly” because suddenly you’re watching videos of a giraffe riding a bike and it’s now 4:17am.
2. Write it down before bed
If your brain likes to hold meetings at midnight, get the thoughts out BEFORE you go to bed.
Write your to-do list.
Write your worries.
Write the random thing you suddenly remembered from 2007.
Your brain often keeps repeating things because it’s scared you’ll forget them.
Once it’s written down, your mind can relax a bit.
3. Stop telling yourself you’ll be tired
This one changed everything for me.
Instead of:
“I’m going to be exhausted tomorrow.”
Try:
“I’m resting.”
“My body is still relaxing.”
“I’m comfortable.”
“I’m calm.”
Even if you’re awake, your body still benefits from rest.
Lying in bed relaxed is VERY different from lying there internally screaming because you aren’t asleep yet.
4. Your bed should feel safe, not stressful
If every night becomes:
“Right then body, GO TO SLEEP IMMEDIATELY.”
your nervous system starts associating bed with pressure.
Your bed should feel comforting.
Soft blankets. Calm lighting. A nice pillow. Somewhere your body actually wants to relax.
5. Crystals, oils and bedtime rituals
And yes… I’m still keeping my crystals in this article because I like them and lots of my clients do too
Do I think one tiny crystal is going to magically knock you unconscious? Probably not
But do I think calming bedtime rituals help signal to the brain that it’s time to slow down? Absolutely.
I love:
✨ Rose Quartz under the pillow
✨ Amethyst by the bed
✨ Howlite for calming busy thoughts
And essential oils can be lovely too:
Lavender
Chamomile
Bergamot
Even the act of setting up a calming environment tells your nervous system:
“Okay… we’re safe now. We can switch off.”
6. Your body might be tired but your mind is overstimulated
This is such a big one now.
So many people spend all day:
rushing
scrolling
working
worrying
multitasking
absorbing stress
then expect the brain to suddenly switch off like a lightbulb the second their head hits the pillow.
Sometimes your mind simply needs help slowing down.
That’s actually one of the reasons I created my Sleep Again hypnosis recordings — because overthinking at bedtime is exhausting.
The recordings are designed to help calm racing thoughts, quiet mental chatter and gently guide your body and mind into a more relaxed state without pressure or force.
Because sometimes you don’t need another sleep lecture…
You just need someone to help your brain stop doing cartwheels at midnight.
Explore the Sleep Again Collection Here
And if you take one thing from this article, let it be this:
Stop fighting bedtime.
Rest is still valuable.
Relaxation still matters.
And your bed is allowed to become your sanctuary instead of your battleground.
